Closure

Maybe you need closure, Maybe you don't,

Perhaps I need one, perhaps I don't need one to move on.

Is having closure after a relationship simply an overrated myth,

do we really need the closure we desire,

or are we just trying to still hold on to a nonexistent relationship framed up as 'need for closure'...

There are very few cases where people have the closure that they desire after a relationship,

and thats because when things don't work out, lack of communication played a part,

thus why its hard to gain closure because that requires communication, vulnerability and acceptance.

Admitting that we are not meant for the person our heart yearns for,

is a hard pill to swallow.

It is fully acknowledging that you have to start over again,

that it hurts but you need to heal and move on.

Moving on and starting again is scary and hard for most of us,

but even harder is letting to,

but don't we have to let go, to move on? and..

and thats where closure comes in..

Without closure,

without that final communication about you two and finally shutting the book to that love or friendship

without both individuals accepting that its over, there will always be hope,

and hope in this case can be harmful.

Because this hope is why I still accept you wholeheartedly whenever you come back,

its why I still believe a future for us when deep inside my gut is telling me 'its over',

its why I am hell bent on making you happy at the expense of my happiness,

and its why we are always on this 'Mary go round' journey,

going in a constant cycle and not progressing anywhere,

because we lack closure, because we are afraid to admit that it was good while it lasted,

but right now, we are not meant for each other.

Lack of closure affects us, it hold us down,

it hurts, yes it does,

but you, no I.. I mean we

we have to accept that it hurts letting go,

acknowledge our pain and work towards our healing,

because healing is needed to start another heathy relationship

or for people like me, its good for your sanity.

So closure is good, its important, and if you feel like you need it,

ask for it, get your closure and move on,

but remember you can move on without it,

it all depends on you and the steps you are willing to take to heal.

You..

I...

We deserve healing and so much more.