Attentive listening and non verbal communication is one of the biggest and most important aspect of a good communication.
Your body language sends a message, it speaks more words than you utter
If you are having a serious conversation with someone and your eyes are fixated on something else, you are fiddling with your dress or doing something else,
even though you are sending little "uhuh" as the person speaks.
Though you might be giving the person cues to continue, you are appearing very uninterested due to the loud message you are portraying nonverbally.
Which could cause one to stop explaining, cut short their explanation, thinking you are not interested, or you are not taking the issue or their emotions/feelings seriously.
Poor or bad communication can slowly cause a drift in relationships,
at least in my opinion, I honestly don't believe there can be a healthy long- lasting relationship without good communication.
Your facial expressions send loud clear messages, your body language speaks louder,
thus when conversing, focus on the person speaking,
multi tasking is the 21st centuries good norm, one which I am guilty of,
however, focusing on one thing at a time produces a better end result.
So focus, face the person with your whole body, maintain a good facial and body language
AND LISTEN ATTENTIVELY
So many of us little to respond,
we listen to give our reply and move on,
we are quick to say "well I think"
when sometimes all the person needs is someone to validate their feelings,
sometimes all we need is "I hear you, I understand you and I am here for you"
sometimes we know right from wrong but we just want to vent
we need listeners, attentive listeners and not responders.
listen to understand, to completely understand the persons situation,
and then respond,
attentive listening grants you empathy for the person and not sympathy,
it allows you to be able to help in the situation or relieve a bit of the persons worry,
it gives one the ability to fully comprehend and understand the speakers perspective.
So lets strive to be good communicators
and follow the sunnah
for Muhammed saw used to turn his whole body completely towards the speaker,
he would maintain eye contact, use positive body language,
and would patiently listen with empathy, without judgment or interruption.
Lets follow this beautiful way of communication when conversing with the people we care about.
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